![]() I really wish people would understand! From the outside it probably looks like that is what mom does – indulge me, spoil me, allow for me to manipulate her, making me worse – but that’s not what happens at all. What is really, really hard on me is when I get criticized, punished or even ridiculed for showing these behaviors, or when someone alleges I do it on purpose out of malice to manipulate everyone around me, or to just seek the easy way out, and advises my mom not to indulge my behavior. I can suppress it when I absolutely need to, but not forever because it makes the stress worse, so if I have to keep it up, it usually results in something that’s worse than age-inappropriate behavior. In general, when I feel compelled to behave that way, I find it hard to suppress it, even when I know that those behaviors are no appropriate way to react by mentally healthy people standards, and often feel embarrassed about it. Yesterday evening I showed a lot of them. I show more of those behaviors when I’m stressed, less when I’m feeling good, but at no time (that I’m aware of) none. I swing back and forth between a varying number of those (and probably more) at pretty much any given time. replying with “No!” instead of listening to reason.putting my hands over my ears and turning away, pretending to not hear or see anything.assuming a fetal position and / or rocking myself back and forth.monitoring and trying to control what other people do.not staying with other people or anywhere, really, unless mom is with me / separation anxiety.wanting to sit on my mom’s lap or hold her hand or be physically close otherwise.claiming not to be able / not to know how to do something.resorting to physical passivity and muteness.demanding ongoing and undivided attention.being clingy and in distress when I’m left alone.Some of the many colorful shades of my regressive behavior: Anyway, I’ll describe a little how my regressive behavior looks, so you get an idea of what I’m talking about. Sometimes I wonder if when I’m writing blog posts is the only time of the day when I’m not. I think I operate on some kind of regressive level most of the time, in fact. For me it’s all just one big messy tangle anyway where everything ties in with everything else somehow.įor me regressive behavior is very, very common. I have no idea if regressive behavior is more of a Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) or a Posttraumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD) thing, or if it even matters to know. Personally, I think it is also a way for unresolved issues from earlier developmental stages to show and allows for those issues to get addressed, treated and (hopefully eventually) resolved. It also has communicative value, making a statement about where the person is at emotionally and what she needs. Regressive behavior can be open or covert, and it can happen in very mild up to very severe forms.įunctionally, regressive behavior is a coping mechanism. In psychology regression is a term to describe behavior and ways of thinking or feeling that suggest or tie in with an earlier developmental level.
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